To start with, can we agree that life is change? We are born, grow and age. Constantly changing physically, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually among many other dimensions.

Life is change.

And what happens when there is change? There are problems.


Because change means something new has happened, and now decisions have to be made – what to do? Because the phenomena is new, making a decision about it involves uncertainty, and when we implement the decision, there is a risk that it might somehow backfire.

To act in conditions of uncertainty and risk is identified as “we have a problem.”

But what happens next, after we decide and implement our decision? Not surprisingly, new change occurs, which causes the next problem to emerge. And that new problem can be worse than the one we tried to solve in the first place; the side effects of our solution can be worse than the malady we were trying to cure.

So here is the question: How do we know if our solution is for the better or the worse?

Everything in this world is a system and by definition every system is composed of subsystems, which in turn are composed of their own subsystems.

And what happens when there is change? The subsystems do not change synchronously. Some change faster than others. Take a young start-up company. Its marketing and sales subsystem changes on a dime. It will make promises to clients and agree to whatever they ask for because the start-up desperately needs money. Meanwhile, the production or operational subsystem changes more slowly; it takes time and energy to change production subsystems. The accounting systems changes even more slowly and the human resources subsystem is probably not even in existence at this point.

Those asynchronous changes create gaps, cracks in the system. Those cracks are manifested by what we call “PROBLEMS.”

The bottom line?



Example: If you are sick and go to the doctor, he or she will ask you when it started (change). And then will use his or her medical knowledge to understand what has fallen apart; which part of the body is not working right (disintegration).

If disintegration is the cause of all problems, what is the therapy?


That means that if your solution leads to integration it will work for the better. If it leads to more disintegration, it will result in undesirable “side effects” or so called “collateral damage.”

Now, what is perfect, ultimate integration; what is at its core?


Hate disintegrates. Love integrates.

And here is the rub: Hate happens by itself because disintegration happens by itself. Change is happening all the time and continuously.   Which means disintegration is going on. We do not need to act or to stimulate the process. It happens by itself. We start dying the moment we are born….

Life is disintegration and our role in life is to swim against the stream, to work on integration. To LOVE. Our role is Tikkun Olam (to heal the world).

While disintegration, hate, happens without effort, to Love (integration) is a choice we make.

So what is life all about?

It is change, which means having on-going problems as long as we live, and having to make choices how to solve them: with hate or love? Living out of fear, which creates the hate, or out of hope and faith which enables love.

We choose the life we live.

Just thinking,

Ichak Kalderon Adizes