Once Again on Love
Sahaj Marg, meaning the Natural Way or Heartfulness, is a Mission that practices and promotes a meditation that focuses on the heart. I practice it. It has a prayer.
To paraphrase the prayer, it says, “Oh Master, you are the only goal of human life, it is expectation that blocks our way, and you’re the only power that can make us reach the goal.”
Who is the Master?
What is God?
God is love, absolute love.
Let’s replace the word Master with the word love, and the prayer reads, “Love, you are the true goal of human life. It is expectation that blocks our way to you, and you’re the only power that can make us reach the goal.”
Why is love the goal of human life?
Because what is love? Absolute integration. We are one. No time or space breaks our integration. When we love someone, even after they passed away, we feel as if they’re still next to us. We still talk to them and exchange views. The time dimension does not exist and since we listen to their advice even though they’re not next to us physically the space dimension does not exist either. No matter how far away the person we love is, we still feel them as if they’re next to us.
Love is total integration beyond time and space.
“So, what?” you might say. Why is love the goal?
Because in total integration, there are no barriers that waste our energy; there is no conflict that utilizes energy negatively. The result of such total integration is happiness and, according to many philosophies and religions, happiness has always been the goal of humanity.
But why would expectations and wishes block our way to love and happiness?
Because wishes and wants mean that we are short of something. We are missing something—thus, we wish something else or want something else.
Expectations are more than just wanting and wishing. They express an escalation of dissatisfaction with what we have.
First, you wish. It is just wishful thinking. When you escalate to wanting, your wishes are more than just wishing. You are now putting some stronger word in by saying, “I want this.” When you move to expecting, you express a dimension of controllability: you believe you control the wishes or wants you have, and thus, you expect it.
You can escalate further from expecting to demanding, and then to deserving. It’s the hierarchy of attachment. It starts when you wish, then you want, then you expect, then you demand, and the next step in the escalation is entitlement and if you do not get what you feel you are entitled to , the next step is anger, and anger is disintegration. That’s why wishes, if they progress in the hierarchy of wishes or expectations, are antithetical to love; they disintegrate us; you feel you are not where you want to be. You want change. You are not integrated in the moment, and without integration, there is neither love nor happiness.
The end of the prayer is even more interesting: “It is love that will bring us to love.”
How come? Sounds tautological.
It is not.
The road to love is with love. Love is a muscle says Guru Chariji. Love is not static, and if you don’t practice it, it dies. Start exercising it, practicing it. You cannot get to love without some starting point of love.
Everybody talks about love, but it’s just talk. What we do is what counts. You have to exercise love. Not just talk about exercising, you have to actually practice it. What have you done yesterday and today that expresses your love?
Ichak Kalderon Adizes