Insights on Personal Growth

Dealing With Anger

It is a fad among New Age personal-growth gurus to preach that each of us should go back and revisit childhood, to relearn how it feels to be full of wonder and curiosity, happy, living in the moment.Why is childhood such a joyful time? Because we are integrated. We have no pa...

Acting Out of the Box

In his seminal book Lateral Thinking (New York, NY: Harper & Row, 1973), Dr. Edward De Bono coined the phrase “to think out of the box.”I would like to discuss some examples in which I not just solved a problem by thinking out of the box, but by ACTING out of the box, in the h...

The Wonderful Life of Not Expecting

I am in the Sahaj Marg Ashram in the Himalayas, trying once again to free myself of the bad habit of expecting, of wishing.What is going on?To expect is a prescription for frustration. When you expect something to happen, or when you expect someone to do something, you’re suff...

How to Avoid Jet Lag

My recent trip started in Santa Rosa, California, where I spent one month at the True North Health Center, learning to keep to a strict SOS vegan diet: no Salt, no Oil, no Sugar, and no animal products (meat, fish or fowl, eggs or dairy). Just vegetables and fruit, and for sta...

What Women and Men Want

“Women want love. Men want respect.”I do not remember where I read this, but it stuck in my mind and I have been reflecting on it ever since. What do you think?Now, please note: I do not support the idea that women do not want respect. It is a question of priorities. Women wan...

Signs of Disintegration

On one hand, it’s hard not to notice that the world is becoming “smaller.”The Internet is one cause; others include air travel; a reduction in visa requirements; the rise of multinational corporations, especially in the hospitality industry (and they all serve the same America...

How to Faithfully Apply Decisions in Personal Life

In a previous blog, "What can we learn from Dion," I raised the question: Why is Dion so different? I wrote about how he decides and implements without wavering, without wasting energy doing the transition from decision to implementation.Most mortals, myself included, decide b...

On Being Jewish

I just finished a book I could not put down until the last page: Treblinka, by Jean-Francois Steiner. Originally published in French in 1966, it has been translated into 16 languages. Simon & Schuster first published the English translation in 1967.The book is a kind of diary ...

The Moon and the Roller Coaster

Years ago, a good friend of mine told me that he was unhappy being single. He wanted a change in his life. The dating process, he said, was emotionally exhausting. The women he spent time with were too shallow; he wanted a woman with intellectual depth. He was impatient: Where...

Searching for Peace

Twenty some years ago, I took a vacation in a place called Capitan Lafitte which was somewhere between Playa del Carmen and Cancun Mexico.We slept in palapas on the sand. There was no electricity, no phones and no television. We woke up with the sunrise, snorkeled, walked on t...